I cannot remember the sound of your voice!

I cannot remember the sound of your voice!

- in Relationship

There are many stages in life in which a person has to go through from growth, to socialization to the inevitably stage of falling in love and more.

 Everyone once in his or her lifestyle has felt butterflies in their stomach just seeing an opposite gender, has lost sleep either dreaming or thinking deep about another person and physically needing that person's attention and presence.

This feeling of love is felt by a lot of people, some of which proceeds to develop into a relationship. As the saying goes, a healthy relationship is one with good communications.

In the past, when relationships were built on dates, a lot went into wooing a girl and also keeping a relationship going but with the evolution of technology, a girl living in Kenya can be in a relationship with a guy living in Ghana.

This seems normal because it is termed distance relationship and is accepted by many. Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share interests, concerns, support each other and make decisions.

Good communication is mainly about how we talk and listen, and importantly about our body language. With good communication being the backbone of a healthy relationship, it is gradually diminishing.

Many people in this generation are attached to their electronic devices more than their partners’ generation and with so many social media sites like Facebook, Whatsapp, viber and others which offer a lot of texting options, communication is a back and forth text between partners.

Texting obviously doesn't give that advantage of body language which shows non-verbal communication. Because, when one speaks they can say a lot without uttering many words; the tone of voice, body posture and expression on the face all convey messages but with technology, a barrier can be created so that, when a person texts a smiley face to his or her partner but is actually in a sad mood or feeling angry, the wrong message is sent and this can in the near future constitute to the breakdown of that relationship.

According to Pew Research Center who researched on couples, the Internet and social media in the US, they came up with the findings that;

Tech as a source of support and communication

25% of married or partnered adults who text have texted their partner when they were both home together.

21% of cell owners or internet users in a committed relationship have felt closer to their spouse or partner because of exchanges they had online or via text message.

9% have resolved an argument with their partner online or by text message that they were having difficulty resolving in person.

Tech as a source of tension

25% of cell phone owners in a marriage or partnership have felt their spouse or partner was distracted by their cell phone when they were together.

8% of internet users in a committed relationship have had an argument with their spouse or partner about the amount of time one of them was spending online.

4% of internet users in a committed relationship have gotten upset at something that they found out their spouse or partner was doing online.


These findings show how relationships are been affected positively and negatively. As much as it poses negativity, there have been the options of video calls including facetime, Skype, imo, BBM video calling which give a better option of couples bonding, as mentioned earlier relationship is made possible with these technological advancements.

Many couples get to see each other even with the distance, others get to satisfy each other's sexual excitements which give rise to sex tapes but nonetheless helps keep relationships going.

Communication in relationships has really improved. From letter writing, to text messaging.

Will you not be excited to receive a text from your loved one saying "they miss the sound of your voice" because in that situation a lot would have occurred that could have been solved with a call or an actual meeting or video call.

As relationships evolve due to technology, so must couples evolve but not forgetting the importance of going on real dates and putting away of electronic devices while on these dates so as to enjoy each other’s company. 

Story by; Awity Gyamera Nana (Level 300)

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